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Bed Sharing, Co-Sleeping, or Down the Hall?

Co-sleeping, bed sharing or separate room?

Of course sleep is one of the most sought after things after a baby appears on the scene.  Parents have many questions and concerns around this.

Questions most new parents ask are:

  1. Will I get any sleep?
  2. Where will my baby sleep?
  3. Is it safe for my baby to sleep with me?
  4. Is it okay for my baby to sleep in another room?

Will I get any sleep? Yes you will, and it will not look the same as it did before you had your baby. Baby’s sleep is very different than adult sleep. Check out my tips for new parents.

Where will my baby sleep? This becomes a bit more complicated in the sense that there are many options. The main thing is safety, and peace of mind and, the most sleep, of course.

Sleeping baby

yawning baby

Many parents  co-sleep. They choose a bassinet or co-sleeper near their bed, where they can see and hear their baby. This allows for a quicker response time to the baby’s needs, and less fuss and movement in the middle of the night. Be sure that whatever the baby is sleeping in has been inspected and passes all safety guidelines. Be careful with used items that may not meet these standards.

Some parents choose bed-sharing,  where their baby sleeps with them in their bed. Now, I know what you could be thinking. “This is dangerous, and I have heard of babies suffocating and getting rolled on.”  Those things have happened, sadly. And, there are ways to create a safe sleep environment where the risks of infant death are greatly reduced.

There are safe bed sharing guidelines. Some of those are: baby sleeps on a firm surface, no pillows, sheets and blankets in the way, no water beds, adults are not under the influence of drugs or alcohol, and mother is breastfeeding. You will find the comprehensive guidelines here.

It is common and normal to bed share or co-sleep in many other cultures aside from the USA. Although, many USA parents sleep with their babies and do not admit to it for fear of ridicule or shaming. There are several great resources for you to check out in choosing what you want to do. These are great resources for the postpartum doulas that work with new families, too.

James McKenna, University of Notre Dame  Behavioral Sleep Laboratory is a great one. And then there is the Infant Sleep Information Source (ISIS).

Lastly, there are some parents who choose to have their baby sleep in another room. Many experts do not recommend this, as babies thrive in close proximity to their mother’s heartbeat and breathing rhythms.

Although we have baby monitors, it isn’t the same as having your baby near you. You can hear your baby but your baby can not hear you.

Remember that safe sleeping guidelines still apply to cribs; no bumpers, stuffed animals, pillows, or fluffy over sized blankets. And there are specific guidelines about mattresses, and width of crib rails.  This is especially important with a used crib or mattress.

In my years as a postpartum doula, I have seen every which way for getting the most sleep for everyone.  It is a matter of choice, and my role is to support the choice, and provide information when necessary.  It is also my job to speak up if I feel there is a safety concern.

As always, do your own research, and search within your heart. Speak to your spouse, or significant other and choose what works best for you and your family.

 

 

 

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